Free Printable Behavior Charts.com

Behavior Charts
*

Behavior Charts Ages 3+

*

Behavior Charts Ages 11+

*

Single Behavior Charts 

 Ages 3-10

 (to target one behavior)

*  Behavior Contracts
*

Chore Charts Ages 4-10

*  Chore Charts Ages 11+
*

 Step-by-Step Charts

 (each space is a step

 toward better behavior!)

*  Goal Setting Charts
*  Potty Training Charts
*  Pet Care Charts
*  Teeth Care Charts
*  Hygiene Charts
*

 Homework/School Charts

*

 Reading Charts

*

 Charts To Target

 Specific Behaviors

*  Day Care Charts
*  Exercise Charts
*  Saving Money Charts
*  Conflict Resolution
*  Anxiety
*

 Anger Management

*  Healthy Eating Charts
*  Daily Routine Charts
*

 Instrument Practice

 Charts

*  Holiday Charts
*

 Color By Number

 Behavior Charts

*  Feeling Charts
*  Example Behavior Charts
* Medical Reward Charts   and Certificates
* Picture Cards
*

 Behavior Charts For

 Teachers

Reward Coupons, Stickers, and Other Printables
* Behavior Bucks
* Reward Coupons

*

Reward Certificates

*

Reward Certificates for the Classroom

*

Potty Training Reward

Coupons

* "Caught You" Coupons

*

Printable Invitations & Cards

* Printable Stickers
* Charts For the Home

*

Summer Schedules & Charts

*

Printable Calendar Pages for Kids

* Printable Gift Labels
Articles of Interest
Behavior Management
Using Behavior Charts
Reward Ideas
Consequences For Young Kids & Toddlers
When To Negotiate With Kids
Summer Vacation Problems
Kids Stealing From Parents
Attention Seeking Behavior
Why You Shouldn't Argue With Your Child
Bedtime Arguments And Homework
Regain Parental Control
Dealing With Defiant Young Kids and Toddlers
Using Natural Consequences
Summer Break Strategies
Create Accountability During Summer Break
Gaining Respect From Kids
Parenting Angry Teens
When Good Kids Misbehave
When Kids Only Act Out At Home
When No Means No
Start Parenting More Effectively
When Kids Ignore Consequences
When Your Kids Ignore You
Giving Effective Time-Outs
Dealing With Power Struggles Part 1
Avoiding Power Struggles Part 2
Setting Limits With Difficult Kids
How To Stop A Fight
Oppositional Defiant Disorder
Manipulative Behavior
Keep Your Summer Break Peaceful
Summer Survival For Parents
Disciplining Your Two Year Old
How To Stop Kids From Cursing
Inappropriate Soiling
Consequences For Teens
The Truth About Bullies
Stopping A Temper Tantrum

Potty Training

School

Classroom Management

Classroom Management Strategies

First Year Survival

Stop Bullying In Your Classroom

Controlling The Uncontrollable Class

Child Development

Birth to Age Five

Six to Eleven

Preteens & Teens

Importance Of Play In Child Development

Chores

Sleep

ADHD/ADD

Tips For Parenting ADHD and  Spirited Kids

Unlocking The Secrets To Good Behavior

Summer Planning For A Child With ADHD

Stress Management

Stress Management Tips

Stress-Guarding Your Family

Managing Holiday Stress

Preventing Parental Burnout

How To Be A Calm Parent

Alternative Families

General Parenting/Family 

Top 5 Parenting Mistakes
Parenting The Child You Have
Gaining Respect From Kids
Spending Money On Kids
Fix Your Morning Routine
Perfect Parents Dont Exist
How To Interview A Nanny
When Good Parents Have Difficult Children
Parenting Gifted Children
New Year's Resolutions For Parents
Deciding Appropriate Parenting Rules
Is Your Child A Know-it-all?
Successful Goal Setting
Walking Away From A Fight With Your Child
Creating Accountability In Your Home
Good Cop Bad Cop Parenting
Help Transition Your Kids Through Divorce
Parenting Picky Eaters
When Toddlers Are Picky Eaters
Help Kids Cope With Pet Loss
Great Book Series For Kids
What You Shouldn't Say To Your Kids

Keep Cool When Kids Push Your Buttons

Parenting Your Teen
Helping Kids Adjust To The New Baby
Summer Structure For Kids
Teaching Kids How To Save Money
Selecting The Right Pet
75 Ways To Say Good Job
Getting Kids To Love Reading

Why Boredom Is Good For Kids
Getting Along With Your Preteen
Bedwetting Solutions
Summer Job Ideas For Teens
Halloween Safety Tips
Halloween Party Snack Ideas
Autism/Sensory Disorders/Anxiety
Tips To Tackle Tricky Behaviors
 

 

 

 

Kids Stealing from Parents: What You Need to Know Now

  

 

If your child has been caught stealing, you might have wondered, "Why would my child do this after everything we've taught him?" Many parents question their own abilities and wonder where they've gone wrong with their child when theft is involved. While it's disappointing and frustrating for parents when their child steals, I firmly believe that in most cases, it's a behavior that can be changed.

 

I think it's also important to understand that there is a big difference between children under the age of 6 taking something compared to older kids who steals. Really young kids don't have a sense of right and wrong about this issue yet; their brains haven't developed enough to think outside of themselves and about others. If your younger child has been taking things, focus on teaching him the skills of sharing, asking for what he would like to have, and taking turns. When your child gets to be a little older, you need to coach him to say, "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have taken that without asking." But you don't want to make him feel like he's a bad person, and don't label it as stealing. Instead, make it clear that taking something without asking is wrong.

If your child is nine or older and he's taking things from you or others, you should treat the problem more seriously. As James Lehman says, "Understand that your child is using faulty thinking as a way to solve his problem." The "problem" might be that your ten-year-old wants a new video game, but doesn't have any money. He "solves" it by taking money from your wallet without asking. He's probably thinking, "I need this money. Mom's not even going to notice." When you catch your child using this faulty thinking, you can say, "Just because you want something doesn't mean it's okay to take it without asking." And then ask, "What should you do next time?"

Many parents will call 1-on-1 Coaching when their kids have taken something from a store. They're worried their child will be prosecuted if he takes the shoplifted item back. They decide to give the child a consequence, such as no TV, but they allow the child to keep the stolen item. It's really best to require your child to take the item back to the store. I understand this can be a complicated decision, depending on the age of your child and where you live. This has to be a choice you make after weighing all possible outcomes. But even if you decide against having your child take it back, make sure he doesn't get off scot-free. Give him consequences at home-and do not let him keep the item. You ultimately want your child to learn that when you harm someone, even if it's the owner of a store, you should make amends directly to that person-which is why the best lesson is for your child to take the item back.

When Your Child Uses Your Credit Card

I've talked with many parents whose kids have used their credit card to buy something online-often, they've used it for gaming. Even if the money is gone and cannot be retrieved, don't let your child off the hook. He can make amends by doing something extra around the house to work it off. For example, he can clean out the basement, the garage, or do yard work. The bottom line is that you want to try to teach your child to make amends to the person he's wronged, in this case, you. I also recommend that you call your credit card company and have them notify you if someone tries to use your card for online gaming, or whatever type of site your child was on, in the future. And of course, the game is deleted from the computer so your child doesn't benefit from stealing.

When Your Child Takes Big Ticket Items: Are Drugs Involved?

If your child is taking large amounts of money or big ticket items from your home, I think you need to question why. If you think drugs might be involved, there are probably other signs that are telling you that your child has a problem, like changes in mood or personality. You should definitely look into the possibility that he's taking drugs and rule it out.

If you know your child has a problem but you haven't been able to get him off drugs or into treatment, then consider reporting his thefts to the police to get him into the juvenile justice system. Many states now have drug court, where kids do not have to serve sentences in a juvenile detention center as long as they're in treatment and clean. If you suspect drugs, reporting repetitive theft to the police can be a good course of action.

Here's the truth: a child who is never made to be accountable will never learn from his mistakes. In your own home, have your kids make amends as directly to you or the injured party as possible. This drives home the meaning of what they've actually done, and lets them know that their actions have caused harm to someone.

 

When Stealing Continues

If your child can't stop stealing, you need to help level the playing field for him by finding out what's causing this to happen over and over. You also might want to secure items in your home and keep your wallet in a safe place at all times until your child can learn how to solve his problems more appropriately.

I want to stress that even if you're worried about your child's character, don't let him think that you feel he's a bad, horrible person. Rather, you need to convey the opposite: that he needs to make amends and do the right thing. You want to say things like, "I know it's hard, but I believe you can do it." When you change your opinion of your child as a person and start thinking that he's "bad" or that there's something wrong with his character, there is great potential to harm the relationship. Your child will sense that you have a poor opinion of him and could start to lose hope in his ability to ever change.

If your child continues to take things from you, you will need to firmly address his faulty thinking. There may be an emotional need or impulsivity that drives his behavior. There are also many people who call the Support Line with adopted kids who steal from their families. Not all adopted kids steal of course, but sometimes kids with traumatic backgrounds may have trouble trusting other people to meet their needs, so they take food and other items and hoard them.

When Your Child Denies the Theft

I often tell parents that if you know for sure that your child has stolen something, act with that knowledge. Just say, "I think that you used my credit card because you wanted to download some songs from iTunes. And I'm going to ask you to make amends for that." If you don't know for certain and your child denies the theft, then I don't think you can give him a consequence. You don't want to accuse your child of something that he hasn't done, because it can end up really backfiring on you. He may act out just because you believe he's capable of it. Basically, unless you catch your child red-handed, I wouldn't punish him.

I understand that parents feel hurt and betrayed after their child has stolen something. But try not to take the fact that he stole personally. It's not about you and your parenting-it's about your child and the inappropriate ways he's choosing to solve his problems at the moment.


 
(Kids Stealing reprinted with permission from Empowering Parents)

 

by Carole Banks, MSW

 


Carole Banks, MSW holds a Masters Degree in Clinical Social Work from the University of New England. She worked on the 1-on-1 Coaching Team and contributed to Empowering Parents for four years. A former family and individual therapist for over 10 years, Carole is the mother of 3 grown children and the grandmother of six.
 

 

   

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Home   I    About Us   I   Contact Us  I    Privacy Policy   Advertise l  Article Submissions

Copyright 2007-2014 Free Printable Behavior Charts. Com. All Rights Reserved.