Going Gets Rough-Dealing With Potty Training Accidents
If you have been working with your toddler on potty training, you've
probably both dealt with a good number of accidents. Accidents in potty training
can be discouraging to both child and parent and may make the stretch from
diapers seem wider than it really is.
Why They Happen
You may feel that you have lost progress when a child suddenly has an accident,
but occasional potty training accidents are all part of the process. It may have
nothing to do with the success of your technique, but may be the child's
reaction to a relatively minor change, like a trip to a relative's house or a
When these accidents happen, there are few things to keep in mind. As with many
other challenges in child rearing, a positive attitude is the best weapon
against potty training accidents. Try to remove the emphasis from the potty
training accident itself and place it on making more progress and remembering
successes. Positive feedback is a much more important tool than making negative
statements. Celebrating another dry night is more effective than reminding the
child he keeps wetting himself.
If potty training accidents start happening frequently, look to external factors
to try and diagnose the situation. Your child may have a medical issue like a
urinary tract infection or constipation. Remember, he may not have the words to
try explain what's happening or what he feels. He may be putting off going to
the toilet because he does not know how to deal with an unfamiliar condition.
Another common reason for regression is the arrival of a sibling. Many couples
these days choose to space their kids by about two years. Of course, two is
primo potty training time, and you may see a surge in potty training accidents
upon the arrival of a newcomer who is suddenly absorbing all parental attention.
Respond to this situation with understanding. Remain firm about your shared
goals for potty training, but take time to discuss what's going on and give your
child a chance to talk about his thoughts.